The other day, my husband had a client who wanted new pictures of her latest jewelry creations for an upcoming print feature. Arms loaded with boxes of high end designs for brides, she entered the studio breathless. She had just returned from her first big bridal show in New York and was dizzy with the positive response that she received from peers and buyers. “ I should have gotten these pictures done a while ago, she said rolling her eyes, but I kept putting it off, I don’t know why I do that..”
My husband and I made eye contact as she said that, because we have both asked ourself that same question. You probably know the one that I’m talking about. You have a dream or goal that is just begging, screaming to be realized. Opportunities marches happily away with time in tow and then finally you find the strength, inspiration or just plain chutzpah to make a step toward your dream. The intimidating “TO DO” list item that has been there for 5 days or 5 years is finally cross off followed by the question, “ Why didn’t I do this sooner?” “What took me so long?”
Sometimes the answer to that question is that the timing was not or is not right. However it is often because that “TO DO” list item is a step that means owning our desires. That acknowledgment takes us out of the comfort zone and puts us in new territory called risk. Risk is the opposite of habit. Habit is comfy, fleecy and uber-hospitable. Habit says, “ take a load off and have some hot cocoa for 5 or 10 years.” Habit encourages us by saying that we are fine with the way things are, and oh by the way, have another cookie to fill up that gnawing something is missing feeling inside.
Risk is less coddling. Risk holds the dream in front of you on the other side of a road of glass shards, poisonous snakes (or bunnies depending on your personal list of fears) and says. “ if you want it, come and get it and for heaven’s sake stop ignoring it or complaining about it”. Risk expects you to– *gasp* change. Change your attitude, actions, position, mind, etc. Risk feels that the only person who has to be flexible is you.
That’s the fear and that’s why for me (and others) stepping into my life as I am meant to live it is so often postponed. Like my husband’s client, I am grateful for the little bit of progress that I am experiencing in this department, I am getting better at just showing up and working toward my dreams… step by step.. Each time I cross something off my “TO DO and TO BE” list, I am able to sit down and have a civilized meal with Risk rather than running in the other direction screaming.